1 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:16,880 Come on in. 2 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:20,840 Ah. 3 00:00:21,380 --> 00:00:23,580 Addie? Hi, Dr. Kent. 4 00:00:23,940 --> 00:00:25,320 Lovely to meet you. You can call me Clark. 5 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:28,700 Okay. Welcome to my office. Come on, take a seat. 6 00:00:30,580 --> 00:00:31,840 How was your journey here, okay? 7 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:38,380 Yeah. Oh, my journey was good. I ate a bagel, and the bagel was really yummy, 8 00:00:38,460 --> 00:00:42,580 but I don't know. I wish I almost got to. I really... 9 00:00:43,180 --> 00:00:46,140 Should have gotten a little bit more, but it's okay. Me and my family are 10 00:00:46,140 --> 00:00:49,780 out to dinner tonight, and so I was planning to eat, and yeah. 11 00:00:50,280 --> 00:00:52,360 Okay. So you like bagels. 12 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:56,300 I'll make a note of that in case we ever go out for bagels sometime. 13 00:00:56,560 --> 00:00:59,880 So I'll tell you a little bit about myself and our practice here. 14 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:03,220 I've been at this office for 20 years. 15 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:06,380 I graduated, yeah, 2002. 16 00:01:08,860 --> 00:01:12,080 I help a whole range of different clients, people like yourself. 17 00:01:13,119 --> 00:01:20,080 We should be able to just have a comfortable chat. So I really want you 18 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:25,440 to make yourself at home, to feel comfortable here. So we can just have a 19 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:27,400 conversation. I've done this for years. 20 00:01:28,420 --> 00:01:34,740 Family therapy. I really enjoy helping and seeing lives 21 00:01:34,740 --> 00:01:37,560 transform. And really, it's the habit shift. 22 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:40,920 Habits. 23 00:01:41,259 --> 00:01:44,800 are really what make our character, and that's who we become. 24 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:50,220 And so it can be a very small thing that will change, but the pattern will 25 00:01:50,220 --> 00:01:51,620 repeat and grow. 26 00:01:52,020 --> 00:01:56,240 I'm going to hope to change your patterns and change your habits, and 27 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:58,720 able to help you as we progress. 28 00:01:59,220 --> 00:02:00,520 I will be filming. 29 00:02:01,180 --> 00:02:04,080 You see we've got a camera here, a couple of cameras. 30 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:09,820 This is so that I have notes of our conversations, and I can also monitor 31 00:02:09,820 --> 00:02:10,820 behavior. 32 00:02:10,910 --> 00:02:14,870 as we look back over the tapes and see your improvements okay so i hope that's 33 00:02:14,870 --> 00:02:20,250 good um before we begin i just want to start you know with some simple 34 00:02:20,250 --> 00:02:27,170 conversations uh when do you go to school um is school fun for 35 00:02:27,170 --> 00:02:33,010 you you enjoyed that yeah i mean school's fun for me i don't really get a 36 00:02:33,010 --> 00:02:35,270 lot of work done i just kind of like hanging out with my friends 37 00:02:36,220 --> 00:02:39,060 I don't know, I really like lunch because like you can just talk and talk 38 00:02:39,060 --> 00:02:42,760 entire time and like all my teachers get super mad at me whenever I'm in class 39 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:47,080 because they always say I over -explain myself or I tell too many stories or I 40 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:52,620 distract the other kids or I'm like a student in the classroom or some other 41 00:02:52,620 --> 00:02:54,920 things, but they usually just tell my parents about the rest. 42 00:02:55,380 --> 00:03:00,030 But, you know, school is super fun for me. They're super like... A lot of stuff 43 00:03:00,030 --> 00:03:05,450 to do and a lot of people and all different kinds of people. You get to 44 00:03:05,450 --> 00:03:07,150 meeting different kinds of people all the time. 45 00:03:07,410 --> 00:03:11,310 So, I don't know. It's really fun. But I don't like my English teacher. My 46 00:03:11,310 --> 00:03:17,170 English teacher does not like me at all. And she really has it out for me. Just 47 00:03:17,170 --> 00:03:20,090 because, like, silent reading is supposed to be silent because it has it 48 00:03:20,090 --> 00:03:23,670 in the name. Like, it doesn't mean that we can't, like, discuss the books that 49 00:03:23,670 --> 00:03:25,090 we're reading. So, I don't know. 50 00:03:27,570 --> 00:03:28,570 School's fun. 51 00:03:28,970 --> 00:03:29,929 School fun. 52 00:03:29,930 --> 00:03:36,510 It sounds like there's a lot going on, but not so much working and studying and 53 00:03:36,510 --> 00:03:39,790 homework, for example. How does homework go when you're left to your own 54 00:03:39,790 --> 00:03:42,430 devices? Are you able to focus on that? 55 00:03:43,190 --> 00:03:45,870 I guess I pretty well without. 56 00:03:47,170 --> 00:03:51,270 doing homework and I don't think that's bad but there's so many other things to 57 00:03:51,270 --> 00:03:55,270 make use of your time with during the day not more and more school personally 58 00:03:55,270 --> 00:04:00,630 but I still take all my tests and I still show up to every class so I still 59 00:04:00,630 --> 00:04:05,810 maintain the average but without the homework okay and then in your free time 60 00:04:05,810 --> 00:04:11,070 when you're not having to study what would you spend most of your time doing 61 00:04:11,070 --> 00:04:13,790 what do you enjoy doing oh I love 62 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:18,459 cleaning the bathroom I'll like clean the bathroom like three times a day it's 63 00:04:18,459 --> 00:04:25,260 super fun or like rearranging all of my pens that's super fun for me too um but 64 00:04:25,260 --> 00:04:30,780 no I mostly just like annoy my older sister or so she says she always looks 65 00:04:30,780 --> 00:04:34,500 at me for popping in and out of her room wanting to do her makeup and just 66 00:04:34,500 --> 00:04:38,540 trying to like hang out and spend time like get her up and going because she's 67 00:04:38,540 --> 00:04:41,930 such a slow like So key person. 68 00:04:42,190 --> 00:04:45,230 And I just really want to break her out of her shell because I just can't 69 00:04:45,230 --> 00:04:46,370 imagine a life like that. 70 00:04:46,890 --> 00:04:51,550 You have to have a bunch of projects going and get something to fulfill you 71 00:04:51,550 --> 00:04:55,290 with. You can't just sit down and focus on just one thing. That's so boring. 72 00:04:56,390 --> 00:04:58,730 Well, sometimes it can be good to focus on one thing. 73 00:04:59,210 --> 00:05:02,730 I had it in your notes that this is one of the things that you've been 74 00:05:02,730 --> 00:05:04,010 struggling with is conservation. 75 00:05:05,010 --> 00:05:08,650 Your attention is difficult to focus. 76 00:05:10,720 --> 00:05:15,620 Do you ever find that happening when you're... I mean, I wouldn't call it 77 00:05:15,620 --> 00:05:22,300 struggling. I can focus on some stuff. It's just a lot of the stuff that I 78 00:05:22,300 --> 00:05:25,760 like focusing on, I just won't because there's so many other fun things to look 79 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:29,180 around on. If you're in the classroom and you look out the window and get to 80 00:05:29,180 --> 00:05:32,180 a bird and a squirrel playing with each other, wouldn't you rather do that than 81 00:05:32,180 --> 00:05:33,180 read Shakespeare? 82 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:39,560 Yeah, but sometimes it's important to have to shut out the other distractions 83 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:40,459 you can... 84 00:05:40,460 --> 00:05:45,440 get this more important thing um i think this is what we should try and work on 85 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:51,980 is to focus your concentration a little better okay so moving 86 00:05:51,980 --> 00:05:58,800 forward is there something you would like to pursue in the future a career 87 00:05:58,800 --> 00:06:04,600 but what was it you would like to focus your whole life on um i mean ever since 88 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:09,860 i was little i wanted to be like a brain surgeon so like cutting open brains 89 00:06:09,860 --> 00:06:13,260 and, like, being all inside of people and stuff. I really like that. 90 00:06:14,140 --> 00:06:18,760 So, I don't know. I think you have to have, like, a fast mind to do that. And 91 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:21,540 have a really fast mind. And my mom always says I have a really fast mouth, 92 00:06:21,620 --> 00:06:24,500 But, like, I don't know. I think I'd be really good at it. 93 00:06:24,740 --> 00:06:28,600 And, I mean, I didn't start, like, getting all, like, jittery and crazy 94 00:06:28,660 --> 00:06:29,660 like, a few years ago. 95 00:06:29,960 --> 00:06:32,180 But nothing's really helped with it. 96 00:06:32,460 --> 00:06:37,640 But if I could stop you there, brain surgery is normally quite focused and 97 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:38,640 calculated. 98 00:06:39,110 --> 00:06:43,950 they can't sort of be distracted and wandering off looking at the squirrels 99 00:06:43,950 --> 00:06:45,870 the window. That's why I need to fix this. 100 00:06:46,250 --> 00:06:50,830 Okay, so you would like to fix it. You see that there's a lacking 101 00:06:50,990 --> 00:06:52,270 a problem with the behavior. 102 00:06:52,910 --> 00:06:58,610 I mean, it's fun and all, and it makes me who I am, and I just kind of started 103 00:06:58,610 --> 00:07:01,750 to accept it because nothing's working. We've tried pills, we've tried shock 104 00:07:01,750 --> 00:07:06,450 therapy, we've tried all sorts of things, and nothing really works. 105 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:11,480 Hopefully I can just still be a brain surgeon if I'm like this, but we can't 106 00:07:11,480 --> 00:07:12,419 it. 107 00:07:12,420 --> 00:07:16,920 Well, I think we can fix it because I know I've seen people with the same kind 108 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:23,680 of symptoms, the same signs, the same attention deficit that you have, and we 109 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:27,380 fixed it. But we didn't use medication. We used alternative methods. 110 00:07:27,620 --> 00:07:34,420 I practice what can be a little different, a little unusual behavior 111 00:07:34,420 --> 00:07:36,520 shifts here and pattern changes. 112 00:07:37,260 --> 00:07:43,840 And over time, if we can focus, for example, on one task, then we could 113 00:07:43,840 --> 00:07:44,980 repeat that possibly. 114 00:07:45,580 --> 00:07:49,980 If we could focus, for example, for one minute, then it's possible we could 115 00:07:49,980 --> 00:07:51,020 focus for two minutes. 116 00:07:51,740 --> 00:07:54,900 And then for three minutes. And before long, you'd be able to focus for a whole 117 00:07:54,900 --> 00:07:55,900 ten minutes. 118 00:07:55,980 --> 00:07:58,600 Ten minutes is a long time. Yeah. 119 00:07:58,920 --> 00:08:01,320 I can't even focus on it for ten minutes. 120 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:04,680 No. But if you're going to do some brain surgery, that would take longer than 121 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:05,680 ten minutes, wouldn't it? 122 00:08:07,010 --> 00:08:10,170 We'll slowly wake up. Yeah, it takes many hours actually. 123 00:08:10,650 --> 00:08:13,630 But it's possible. I want you to know that it's possible. I mean, 124 00:08:15,210 --> 00:08:19,350 I've heard good things about you and you've been trying all sorts of 125 00:08:19,350 --> 00:08:26,250 methods on me and I'm really willing to try anything at this point to fix this 126 00:08:26,250 --> 00:08:30,090 because this isn't the life that I really want to be living for all of my 127 00:08:30,190 --> 00:08:34,370 I mean, right now it's fine. It's making me popular in school and popular with 128 00:08:34,370 --> 00:08:35,850 everybody, but... 129 00:08:36,220 --> 00:08:38,020 Because I don't know how to shut up. 130 00:08:38,900 --> 00:08:43,880 A brain surgery client or a patient 131 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:50,300 probably doesn't want me to tell them everything on their chart, you know? 132 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:55,920 Yeah, you will have to learn what information is relevant and what 133 00:08:55,920 --> 00:09:00,160 is not relevant. It's kind of like a filter that you're going to... 134 00:09:00,780 --> 00:09:03,200 You're going to have to... I wish I had those. 135 00:09:03,480 --> 00:09:06,000 Well, you do. It's just we're going to have to work on it a little bit. 136 00:09:06,500 --> 00:09:11,060 We're going to strengthen your focus, strengthen your filter, so you can 137 00:09:11,060 --> 00:09:13,280 distractions and focus on the important things. 138 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:16,920 You really think that you can try and make that happen? 139 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:19,060 Absolutely. I'm very confident. 140 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:20,620 I want you to trust me. 141 00:09:21,060 --> 00:09:23,960 It's an important first step that you believe this is possible. 142 00:09:24,440 --> 00:09:27,960 Because if you don't believe it, then we can't even take that first step. 143 00:09:28,180 --> 00:09:29,780 And I can tell you that there's... 144 00:09:30,140 --> 00:09:33,220 You know, always the first step and the second and the third and the fourth. And 145 00:09:33,220 --> 00:09:36,620 I can tell you there's, you know, many more steps. 146 00:09:37,060 --> 00:09:40,880 But if we just take the first one together, then we'll have confidence to 147 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:42,720 the second one, the third one, and so on. 148 00:09:43,540 --> 00:09:45,800 You know, I've heard it before. 149 00:09:46,040 --> 00:09:49,800 I've put my trust into a lot of doctors in the past over the course of this 150 00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:54,480 illness. And I'm willing to put my trust in you for this appointment. 151 00:09:54,860 --> 00:09:58,520 If I see something I like or it's something that helps. 152 00:09:59,610 --> 00:10:05,010 We can keep moving and keep trying to fix this thing, but I just need to keep 153 00:10:05,010 --> 00:10:06,030 moving forward if not. 154 00:10:06,350 --> 00:10:10,210 Yeah. Well, my goal is that when you leave here today, you'll walk out and 155 00:10:10,210 --> 00:10:14,730 you'll think, wow, I was able to focus and concentrate on that task. And you'll 156 00:10:14,730 --> 00:10:18,570 take that with you. And this is just day one, remember. You'll come back. We'll 157 00:10:18,570 --> 00:10:21,530 review the tapes. We'll go to step two, step three. 158 00:10:22,770 --> 00:10:25,730 You will see progress, but it will be small. 159 00:10:26,190 --> 00:10:28,330 But progress is progress. Think of a tree. 160 00:10:28,720 --> 00:10:32,860 The tree starts from just a small little seed, an acorn, and it grows to a big 161 00:10:32,860 --> 00:10:33,900 tree, but it happens very slowly. 162 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:36,840 We're going to take our time. 163 00:10:37,360 --> 00:10:38,360 All right? 164 00:10:38,420 --> 00:10:39,420 Let's start there. 165 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:42,300 How about we start with a little test? 166 00:10:43,900 --> 00:10:50,520 This is just for me to be able to observe how you focus on this little 167 00:10:50,600 --> 00:10:52,560 Think of it like a little game that we're going to play. 168 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:53,840 A little game? 169 00:10:54,120 --> 00:10:55,120 Yes. 170 00:10:55,260 --> 00:10:57,000 Okay, so these are just random. 171 00:10:57,400 --> 00:11:01,580 ink blot images and what we do is we just make a fun game and we say what can 172 00:11:01,580 --> 00:11:07,540 you see there what does it look like to you can you guess what's that okay okay 173 00:11:07,540 --> 00:11:13,860 what's a gape like a game oh 174 00:11:13,860 --> 00:11:20,660 okay like a hole in the ground uh how about this 175 00:11:20,660 --> 00:11:25,880 it'd be another way up it could be this way what do you think what comes to mind 176 00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:27,640 Butt plug. 177 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:31,460 A butt plug? 178 00:11:32,740 --> 00:11:37,460 Like that would be the plug going into the butt. 179 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:39,840 Okay. 180 00:11:41,720 --> 00:11:42,720 Okay. 181 00:11:46,140 --> 00:11:50,960 Well, I'm happy that you seem to be focusing on the game. You're enjoying 182 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:51,960 game. 183 00:11:52,000 --> 00:11:53,140 I can see that. 184 00:11:53,420 --> 00:11:54,420 I like games. 185 00:11:55,500 --> 00:11:56,540 What do you think now? 186 00:11:58,260 --> 00:11:59,260 Come. 187 00:12:01,880 --> 00:12:02,880 Come? 188 00:12:03,480 --> 00:12:04,920 Big splatter of come. 189 00:12:07,980 --> 00:12:08,980 OK. 190 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:10,840 Well, 191 00:12:11,600 --> 00:12:14,460 you've actually done very well there because that was at least a minute. 192 00:12:14,800 --> 00:12:20,180 Oh, really? Of focusing on... Well, that's a good game. 193 00:12:20,560 --> 00:12:24,180 Yeah. I'm happy you enjoyed that one. We'll come back to that. 194 00:12:26,200 --> 00:12:30,860 Another game, sometimes your attention can be drawn, like you get out the 195 00:12:30,860 --> 00:12:33,980 window, there's squirrels, there's all different things in the room. I like 196 00:12:33,980 --> 00:12:35,980 squirrels. You like squirrels. 197 00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:40,180 Squirrel. So what we should do, no, I was just joking. 198 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:41,920 Squirrel. 199 00:12:42,380 --> 00:12:45,000 No, stay here with me in the room. 200 00:12:45,820 --> 00:12:47,620 Let's bring our focus to the room. 201 00:12:48,190 --> 00:12:52,430 And then very specific, find things like, for example, shoes are white, 202 00:12:52,710 --> 00:12:57,430 So let's count how many white things are in the room. So it's like one, two. 203 00:12:58,110 --> 00:12:59,810 Can you see any other white things? 204 00:13:00,070 --> 00:13:02,050 Let's look around for white things, shall we? 205 00:13:03,190 --> 00:13:04,330 Look behind you. 206 00:13:06,110 --> 00:13:09,370 There's a white thing there. 207 00:13:09,950 --> 00:13:14,370 Yeah, I mean... So I want you to name the white thing so we got the, you know, 208 00:13:14,370 --> 00:13:16,710 you could say, like if I was playing the game, I would say shoes. 209 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:20,000 And I'd say, the blinds. 210 00:13:20,500 --> 00:13:22,800 Um, two. 211 00:13:23,440 --> 00:13:24,440 That's it. 212 00:13:25,060 --> 00:13:27,300 Blinds. Keep looking around. 213 00:13:27,980 --> 00:13:29,980 Um. How many are the white things? 214 00:13:30,380 --> 00:13:32,680 Desk. Desk is white. 215 00:13:33,100 --> 00:13:35,700 Um, and the back. 216 00:13:36,020 --> 00:13:37,860 And those are the back. 217 00:13:38,740 --> 00:13:43,660 And, um, what were we doing? 218 00:13:44,280 --> 00:13:45,780 The white things. 219 00:13:46,140 --> 00:13:47,140 Oh. Remember? 220 00:13:47,630 --> 00:13:51,170 Right. What white? Count the white things. Any more white things in the 221 00:13:51,790 --> 00:13:54,070 Um... The crowd? 222 00:13:56,370 --> 00:13:57,570 Um... Light? 223 00:14:00,590 --> 00:14:05,150 Um... Hey, is that a picture of your dog? 224 00:14:05,650 --> 00:14:06,650 He's a cute puppy. 225 00:14:07,030 --> 00:14:09,690 Yeah. How old is he? That's my puppy. 226 00:14:10,930 --> 00:14:11,930 He's four. 227 00:14:12,410 --> 00:14:16,130 He was a puppy in the photo. That picture helps look good. 228 00:14:16,700 --> 00:14:18,540 Just to let you know. Oh, thank you. 229 00:14:18,780 --> 00:14:20,140 I'll straighten up the picture. 230 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:28,060 I feel like... I feel like your concentration lacked a little bit on 231 00:14:28,140 --> 00:14:29,780 didn't it? The pick the white things. 232 00:14:30,060 --> 00:14:34,360 Were we playing a game? Yeah, trying to focus you here in the room. Where we are 233 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:35,360 here and now. 234 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:36,480 Sorry. 235 00:14:37,180 --> 00:14:38,180 Yeah, 236 00:14:38,400 --> 00:14:39,700 well that's why you're here. 237 00:14:41,940 --> 00:14:44,980 Let's get back to this. You were able to focus on these. Remember this one? 238 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:49,640 I don't remember that one. Yeah. So, let's play a game, okay? 239 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:51,000 I like games. 240 00:14:52,900 --> 00:14:53,900 You like brick? 241 00:14:54,520 --> 00:14:55,520 It's not the best. 242 00:14:55,740 --> 00:14:56,740 Okay. 243 00:14:59,420 --> 00:15:05,780 Draw an interpretation of things you see, and we'll see how you do with 244 00:15:05,780 --> 00:15:06,780 for a minute. 245 00:15:21,740 --> 00:15:24,580 Remember to go back with the images you've seen already. 246 00:15:30,540 --> 00:15:32,120 Remember the plug? 247 00:15:32,420 --> 00:15:34,900 You said it was like a plug of some sort. 248 00:15:36,140 --> 00:15:37,140 I remember. 249 00:15:37,800 --> 00:15:38,800 Uh -huh. 250 00:15:39,540 --> 00:15:42,280 You're actually quite good. You're a good little artist, aren't you? 251 00:15:43,620 --> 00:15:45,140 I try my best. 252 00:15:46,240 --> 00:15:48,180 I enjoy what comes to mind. 253 00:15:51,500 --> 00:15:53,960 Yeah, I can see what's in your mind. 254 00:15:57,240 --> 00:16:01,880 Oh, quite graphic detail you've gone into for us. 255 00:16:02,820 --> 00:16:09,420 Okay, so you like spaceships. I can see them all, the rockets taking 256 00:16:09,420 --> 00:16:10,420 off. 257 00:16:11,340 --> 00:16:13,240 I call them cockets. 258 00:16:14,200 --> 00:16:15,200 Cockets? 259 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:18,560 It seems that a little... 260 00:16:20,560 --> 00:16:26,700 If you don't mind me saying it, a little sexual theme here that you 261 00:16:26,700 --> 00:16:33,140 really focus on the drawing. The drawing game is... Yeah, I always kind of like 262 00:16:33,140 --> 00:16:36,780 drawing. It's kind of just a good way to, like, express yourself. 263 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:42,580 And, I don't know, nobody, like, can hold a conversation with me long enough 264 00:16:42,580 --> 00:16:44,580 me to, like, express one's thoughts, sort of thing. 265 00:16:44,920 --> 00:16:47,160 So drawing's really, like, a good outlet for that. 266 00:16:47,740 --> 00:16:50,940 What do you normally draw when you're... when we're drawing. 267 00:16:52,400 --> 00:16:53,520 Is this pretty? 268 00:16:53,900 --> 00:16:54,900 Yeah. 269 00:16:55,760 --> 00:16:59,740 Do you always draw these kind of images when you're doodling? 270 00:17:00,340 --> 00:17:02,180 I mean, whatever comes to mind. 271 00:17:02,700 --> 00:17:05,660 Is it this that seems to come to mind most? Oh, this. 272 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:07,560 Oh. 273 00:17:08,400 --> 00:17:10,220 See, it's pointing at me. Yeah. 274 00:17:13,140 --> 00:17:19,760 I can see that you're focusing on... 275 00:17:20,089 --> 00:17:27,069 on sexual activities yeah okay um 276 00:17:27,069 --> 00:17:33,490 if i could just take your pen there just for a second oh i'm using it yeah this 277 00:17:33,490 --> 00:17:40,210 was only an exercise to see how focus and concentrate which you did very well 278 00:17:40,210 --> 00:17:44,330 you did more than a minute right so i'm very impressed it seems your 279 00:17:44,330 --> 00:17:47,870 concentration comes alive in the realm of imagination 280 00:17:49,020 --> 00:17:54,600 rather than in the here and now in the room remember when we did the white 281 00:17:54,600 --> 00:18:00,920 things or you know if I remind you like we're here and here's a pen I just want 282 00:18:00,920 --> 00:18:05,360 you to follow with your eyes the pen that's the only we're just going to 283 00:18:05,360 --> 00:18:09,300 minute just going oh it's over there let's just follow look look at the pen 284 00:18:09,300 --> 00:18:12,100 there and then we'll come over here that's it 285 00:18:13,030 --> 00:18:15,550 That's it, and I'm just going to keep moving the pen, but I'm going to go, oh, 286 00:18:15,670 --> 00:18:18,510 it's a different direction. Oh, it's different. You never know where it's 287 00:18:18,510 --> 00:18:19,510 to go. 288 00:18:19,710 --> 00:18:21,250 Keep following the pen for me. 289 00:18:21,910 --> 00:18:22,910 That's it. 290 00:18:25,070 --> 00:18:26,070 Over here. 291 00:18:27,370 --> 00:18:28,370 There it is. 292 00:18:36,990 --> 00:18:39,010 Whoa. There it is. 293 00:18:46,890 --> 00:18:53,430 I noticed you struggle to focus in the here and the now. 294 00:18:55,090 --> 00:18:59,150 You seem to have a very active imagination when it comes to sexual 295 00:19:02,030 --> 00:19:04,830 Is that a bad thing? That's not a bad thing. 296 00:19:05,390 --> 00:19:06,910 It's something I can help you with. 297 00:19:11,650 --> 00:19:13,790 Just touch me for one second. 298 00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:18,040 We're going to do another little experiment. Another little game. 299 00:19:18,540 --> 00:19:20,200 Okay? Whatever you think will help, Doc. 300 00:19:20,500 --> 00:19:23,260 Okay. So, close your eyes. 301 00:19:24,780 --> 00:19:25,780 All right. 302 00:19:25,940 --> 00:19:27,260 And look. 303 00:19:30,280 --> 00:19:31,280 Oh. 304 00:19:33,340 --> 00:19:34,340 Surprise. 305 00:19:34,660 --> 00:19:41,440 I mean, are you really supposed to be doing that? I mean, you just kissed me 306 00:19:41,440 --> 00:19:43,800 your office. It's a little interventional. 307 00:19:45,730 --> 00:19:50,670 Yeah. Is that, like, is that okay? Like, you're going to kiss me? 308 00:19:50,910 --> 00:19:52,890 I'm going to kiss you some more. 309 00:20:23,300 --> 00:20:26,220 Now, I know it seems strange, but you've focused on you. 310 00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:29,260 You weren't thinking about what you're going to have for dinner. You weren't 311 00:20:29,260 --> 00:20:30,640 thinking about the squirrels. 312 00:20:31,240 --> 00:20:35,980 You weren't even drawing. You weren't thinking about your homework that you 313 00:20:35,980 --> 00:20:37,840 don't do, that you haven't done yet. 314 00:20:38,280 --> 00:20:40,600 Where were your thoughts while we were kissing? 315 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:43,140 I guess just in the moment. 316 00:20:43,480 --> 00:20:48,400 But I was feeling not anything else. 317 00:20:48,780 --> 00:20:50,240 In the moment. The current feeling. 318 00:20:52,620 --> 00:20:54,120 It's what we're calling the here and the now. 319 00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:58,020 I don't know if I've been there before. 320 00:20:58,480 --> 00:20:59,620 The here and before. 321 00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:06,780 I think you have been, just when you've had the sexual 322 00:21:06,780 --> 00:21:07,780 time. 323 00:21:08,940 --> 00:21:10,280 That's where you're here and now. 324 00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:13,180 Do you want to go there again with me? 325 00:21:13,860 --> 00:21:14,860 Do you want to try it? 326 00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:17,560 What do you mean? 327 00:21:17,920 --> 00:21:18,920 Just another kiss. 328 00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:21,200 Mm -hmm. 329 00:21:22,540 --> 00:21:23,740 Thank you. 330 00:21:24,740 --> 00:21:25,740 Very good. 331 00:22:11,679 --> 00:22:13,160 Yeah. You're here in the room. 332 00:22:13,380 --> 00:22:14,880 I'm here in the room. 333 00:22:15,140 --> 00:22:16,140 Mm -hmm. 334 00:22:17,180 --> 00:22:18,800 How does it feel? Clear? 335 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:20,640 Sharp? 336 00:22:20,940 --> 00:22:27,800 I can't believe that it worked, even if it's for a 337 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:28,800 second. 338 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:33,600 If you can do a second, then we can do a minute. If you can do a minute, we can 339 00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:35,540 get to ten minutes. We can get to an hour. 340 00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:38,920 I don't know if I'd ever be able to do an hour of that. 341 00:22:39,470 --> 00:22:44,510 you know, fully focused in, but I've heard it's possible. 342 00:22:44,850 --> 00:22:48,990 Not today, but let's try and get to five minutes. 343 00:22:50,070 --> 00:22:53,630 We can do ten minutes, or an hour. 344 00:22:54,170 --> 00:22:57,530 I just need you to focus here in the room with me, okay? 345 00:22:58,210 --> 00:22:59,470 I don't think I can. 346 00:23:00,350 --> 00:23:05,850 Well, this might seem a little unconventional, but we're gonna 347 00:23:05,850 --> 00:23:08,850 play a little battle game. 348 00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:16,980 We're going to... Kind of special game. 349 00:23:17,420 --> 00:23:18,860 Well, I think you've played this one before. 350 00:23:21,220 --> 00:23:23,920 You're able to focus here on this, right? 351 00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:26,180 Yeah, yeah. 352 00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:28,960 I'm able to focus on it. 353 00:23:31,860 --> 00:23:35,540 Now, when you see there, what comes to mind? 354 00:23:36,500 --> 00:23:39,380 It's a little bit like your drawings, isn't it? 355 00:23:40,360 --> 00:23:42,300 Pretty realistic. 356 00:23:44,540 --> 00:23:50,060 Yeah. I guess I want to fuck it. 357 00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:51,880 Uh -huh. 358 00:23:53,500 --> 00:23:54,740 Sounds like a good idea. 359 00:23:54,980 --> 00:23:56,740 You think you could do that for one minute? 360 00:23:59,580 --> 00:24:00,580 You want to try? 361 00:24:02,500 --> 00:24:05,400 Could we focus on putting it in your mouth to begin with? 362 00:24:07,020 --> 00:24:08,020 Uh -huh. 363 00:24:11,100 --> 00:24:12,700 That's not going to be weird, right? 364 00:24:15,980 --> 00:24:16,980 That's why we're here. 365 00:25:15,810 --> 00:25:17,430 Day poker. 366 00:25:19,070 --> 00:25:20,590 Day in the room. 367 00:26:43,820 --> 00:26:46,360 on to something here. You're focusing, you're concentrating. 368 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:52,000 Keep doing what you're doing. 369 00:26:53,360 --> 00:26:55,900 I'd like you to take your clothes off for me, okay? 370 00:26:56,120 --> 00:26:59,520 So it's still sexy. We're still doing sexy time. 371 00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:05,260 That's it. Stay focused on the cock. 372 00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:07,200 Good girl. 373 00:27:09,860 --> 00:27:10,860 Very good. 374 00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:23,560 Ta -da! 375 00:27:24,860 --> 00:27:25,860 Okay, 376 00:27:27,400 --> 00:27:30,440 why don't you kneel down for me? You've got the drawings. Remember those cups. 377 00:27:34,220 --> 00:27:36,000 I love cups. 378 00:27:36,380 --> 00:27:39,840 I love cups. I love cups. 379 00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:45,920 That's it. 380 00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:47,420 Stay focused. 381 00:27:50,090 --> 00:27:51,090 Aww. 382 00:29:37,980 --> 00:29:39,380 Yeah. Yeah. 383 00:39:46,730 --> 00:39:52,370 Stay focused. The longer we can achieve this concentration, the better. 384 00:39:53,210 --> 00:39:54,210 That's it. 385 00:39:58,430 --> 00:40:00,770 Stay with the good feelings. 386 00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:11,700 minutes is this. It's a lot. I feel you keep track. 387 00:42:12,160 --> 00:42:14,580 Exactly. That's how you know you're in the moment. 388 00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:17,240 You keep curving me, Doc. 389 00:43:15,950 --> 00:43:16,970 concentrate a little longer 390 00:43:16,970 --> 00:43:22,990 keep 391 00:43:22,990 --> 00:43:29,770 that tongue out keep your mouth open 392 00:43:29,770 --> 00:43:36,750 that's it there you go big look that's it remember the 393 00:43:36,750 --> 00:43:37,750 tongue 394 00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:21,280 Keep your tongue out. Concentrate. 395 00:44:22,660 --> 00:44:23,880 Concentrate on your tongue. 396 00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:26,020 That's a good girl. 397 00:44:26,980 --> 00:44:28,000 There you go. 398 00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:29,880 Ready? 399 00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:31,640 Yeah. 400 00:44:59,630 --> 00:45:01,930 You focused for all that time, didn't you? 401 00:45:02,190 --> 00:45:03,950 I think I'm cured, Doc. 402 00:45:05,690 --> 00:45:10,070 You'll never be cured, but we can work on your habit patterns. 403 00:45:11,510 --> 00:45:13,770 It's going to get better and better and better. 404 00:45:14,190 --> 00:45:15,830 I like this new medicine. 405 00:45:16,930 --> 00:45:18,210 Does it taste good? 406 00:45:19,230 --> 00:45:20,230 Yeah, Doc. 407 00:45:28,780 --> 00:45:30,700 Same time next week? Mm -hmm. 408 00:45:31,820 --> 00:45:32,380 That 409 00:45:32,380 --> 00:45:40,280 concludes 410 00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:41,460 our session for today.